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There seems to be a new phenomena happening in Dubai. Guys who were typically known to be the players and party animals of this great Emirate are all of a sudden finding their perfect mates and wives-to-be in a matter of months and speeding down the relationship highway. They seem to be throwing their bachelor lifestyle away and settling down for the more mature route of grown-up relationships. Great trend? Perhaps and perhaps not.
Although these guys should be commended on some level for opting for the more mature path in life, they are in many cases rushing into relationships with girls they hardly know. This isn’t the only problem. In many instance, the guy is playing the dating field with more than one girl, and then spontaneously opts for a girl (other than one of the options he’s juggling) that seems to fall from the heavens into his philosophical lap. Coffees, dinners, outings, clubs, etc…. he is exploring and playing the entire field. From independent to hard-working to air-headed and flaky, the guy typically makes no differentiation in the type of attention he’s giving to each of these types. And yet somehow, he seems to be able to play them all equally till he finds his one true match – a girl that typically isn’t in his normal pattern of social behavior.
Why is this though?
In my opinion, I feel that this type of guy is not only confused, but is trying to use meeting someone “entirely new” as a groundwork for building himself in that girl’s eyes in a way that he is completely convenient for him. He has the ability to be the guy he wants to be, without having to explain the intricacies of his bizarre multi-faceted and multi-personality character. After all, the new girl is only seeing him in a light that he is carefully orchestrating.
I’m not criticizing wanting to put one’s best foot forward and give good impressions. What I am criticizing is doing so at the expense of other girls that seem to get pulled along and believing that there is something meaningful with said guy.
So ladies.. beware of princes in shining armor who seem to pop up into your lives from nowhere. They could be the man of your dreams… but just do a bit of homework on them before you take that relationship jump.
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Rhizoid Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 9:52 pm
Interesting food for thought, but I don’t buy it. THe last thing we (yes I’m a guy) need is the women around us to be more insecure.
True there are alot of creeps out there, but unfortunately my last two relationships broke off simply coz the ladies had insecurities.
I hope this “doing a bit of homework” isn’t taken too far. not that I have anything to hide…:-P
Diva Says:
November 13th, 2007 at 11:35 am
Dear Rhizoid
Thank you for thoughts. I’m merely saying that there are indeed alot of “creeps” out there… the sad thing is that they are the ones who do alot of damage that nice guys (in their scarcity) suffer from.
The same goes for women.There are alot of really great ladies out there that get pegged by the “insecurities” of those all-not-so-great.
It just seems that lately there are alot of guys ready to change and alter their lifestlyes completely in order to impress their newly found Juliettes.
Oliver Says:
November 21st, 2007 at 10:20 am
Well, you may be right, you may be wrong. Mostly right, though.
I’ve known a major chunk of my friends to be like that. Maybe I was hanging out with the wrong guys…??? But you kinda like put into words what was on my mind too…so it made some nice reading. A kindered soul is always welcome when you’re feelin down…
Methinks you do a lot of reading…do you?
Care to share the stuff you like sometimes?
See ya around. And do keep writing. Anything from the heart that doesnt feel contrived is appreciated.
Oliver
EgyptianMagician Says:
December 12th, 2007 at 9:04 am
remember the scene in sex in the city where sara jessica parker says that guys are like taxi cabs…always speeding along with their light off. then all of a sudden they turn their light on and the next taxi cab they meet is the one they end up with… though i think the show is garbage that was a very insightful comment…
i liked ur article though, one thing the playing games in dubai goes both ways… i dont think the girls should get a free pass
Cicero Says:
March 16th, 2008 at 11:07 pm
I came across this site by mistake, and i came in here, I do not know how, and saw this really interesting article.
If I may comment, I’d like to point out that guys are humans at the end of the day. I say this because I’ve noticed that many girls in the UAE view guys as alliens. exaguration? I dont think so, nor am I completly siding with guys. But I see many females lacking the understanding of their partner, or even understanding of how to treat a guy. However, this isnt a one way road. That also goes for guys! (maybe more so guys than girls)
But I would like to add that I have had my fair share of fun and wild outings when i studied in Europe, but i did meet a special person, and never, ever , in my life did I think I would know that this person is special from the first time I met her. Now fast forward to today, almost 2 years later, I am still commited to this person, not because im bored or anything, but because I have come to realize that when ur commited and you really love a person, not even the evilest side of you can derail you.
I hope I made sense.
ANTHONY Says:
September 13th, 2008 at 9:46 pm
IM READY ABLE AND WILLING , ALL I NEED TS TO FIND THE RIGHT , THAT KNOWS HOW TO ENJOY THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE. IF ANY ONE KNOWS SOMEONE THAT IS TIRED OF PLAYERS AND READY TO JUST ENJOY THE THE NIGHT HAVE HER CONTACT ME : popsforreal@yahoo.com
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